For help to land WHOLE in your day
After many years of reading, imagining and fantasising about having a consistent, regular practice to begin my day present and open, I have landed on a rhythm with just the right ingredients. Already noticing the benefits of consciously re-joining my mind and body and tuning into my ever-changing needs, and knowing how helpful I found reading about what works well for others, I am excited to share my current routine – and hope that it will inspire you towards giving this gift to yourself.
Because its evidence-based
From a professional perspective, as a clinical psychologist I have long been aware of the benefits of regular movement, and mindfulness practice and generally the value of learning to become more present in our high-stim environments. But knowing what is healthy and ideal is a long stretch from actually being motivated and able to commit to these routines, in a way that feels authentic, achievable and enjoyable.
Because its so hard!
As well as being a psychologist I am a mother of two young children who mostly still wake up with me and their Dad after joining us at some point in the night. This has been one major obstacle to me taking this time in the morning, because for many years, if I got out of bed, someone would hear me, and immediately follow. Also, I have sampled many mindfulness and yoga routines over the years and been unable to maintain the practice for longer than a week or two. Either I have felt bored, unmotivated or uninspired. Perhaps now until the kids are sleeping more independently, I have just needed every minute of extra sleep that was available to me – so the idea of setting an alarm to wake earlier than absolutely necessary was, quite frankly: absurd.
When the time is right
But for the past several months, I have been organised towards building this sacred start to my day, alone, and the idea of making it work has been motivating enough to make it happen. As well as including movement and mindfulness, I wanted to also introduce some form of ritual which helped the practice feel sacred – permission to my long ignored inner desire for spiritual connection, which has sadly been mostly over-ridden, by a part of me who demands science-driven, evidence based “off the shelf” style techniques and strategies.
This ritual was heavily influenced by my current life stage as a mother, and awareness of my bodies’ cyclical nature. Then beyond the cycles occurring within my body, I wanted to include attention to earth cycles in the seasons and moon phases. I have been moved by an idea introduced by Jane Hardwicke-Collings, around taking steps to becoming The Woman The Earth Needs Now – strong, soft and resilient.
For me this routine had to include menstrual cycle awareness, mindfulness, conscious mind-body integration, spirit, free movement, an attractive room, choice and flexibility. This has taken some time to land in, much trial and error and of course, is still and always will be in development.
My current practice relies on me making the following changes and commitments:
- Go to bed 30 mins earlier as consistently as possible
- Wake to quiet alarm 6:30 (I chose a Birdy song as an alarm but have now begun to wake naturally just before it comes on)
- Have some warm, comfortable clothes ready to pull on and creep downstairs
- No looking at phone apart from to check the time if needed
- Light a candle, turn on twinkly lights and lay out yoga mat
- Sit with candle and land – a few deep breaths
- Start with a “cosmic weather report” bring awareness to my menstrual cycle day and season – phase of moon – earth season
- Body – Focus in on physical body. Where am I drawn. Notice pain or tension. Land there and feel it.
- Emotions – Really how am I feeling? How do I know? What else?
- Mind – Where is my mind drawn? What did I wake thinking? Attend to quality and content of thought.
- Energy – What’s the quality of my energy? Am I buzzy and awake or heavy and slow? Is it rising or falling?
SUMMARY – at this point I make a note of my key findings. Then I ask myself – what do I need right now and today?
In the moment, I have some options – more journalling, some yoga, cup of tea and sit still, listen to a song/ dance/ go back to bed?
Most commonly I choose some gentle stretching/ yoga. This doesn’t follow a specific pattern – I try to let my body lead and do something slightly different every time. I generally make it slow, calm and symmetrical. While moving I continue to use the candle or my breath as an anchor for returning to now. I am not yoga trained I just like this style of movement.
For the rest of the day: what will it be helpful for me to take from this practice into the rest of my day? This is an opportunity for setting an intention, tuning into my intuition, or simply congratulating myself for the starting the day here.
The whole process takes 15 – 30 minutes. Afterwards I dive into my phone, check emails, insta or WhatsApp, boil the noisy kettle, turn on lights, wake the kids and let the wild day begin again.
To be clear, this is not always a slow-motion, spiritual or sacred experience. I note many times I have tuned into feelings of boredom, shame at my indulgence and privilege, or thoughts like “what is this even for?”… I have skipped days and been cross with the children for waking too soon. But I have also kept returning to it. And what it gives me is far greater than what it’s taken away.
