In psychology, and particularly attachment theory, the concept of “good enough” refers to a parent who best serves their developing child by being “enough” rather than perfect. I love this. While a child needs an attentive and loving parent, they also benefit from seeing the reality of life, the struggles, emotions and challenges in manageable amounts.
The main interest of your autonomic nervous system (ANS) is your safety.
If you are ever anxious, frightened, sad, unsettled, overwhelmed or angry, but logically can’t make sense why, you might feel frustrated or betrayed by your body and mind… like they’re conspiring against you to make life hard.
There are many pathways via which emotional experience can impact our physical health but experts in this area separate the physical impacts of stress (when it’s prolonged or chronic) from the (less understood) impacts of trauma (especially on the developing) system.
Intuition and evidence tell us that our physical and mental health is influenced by a complex interaction between genes, germs, injury, aging and EXPERIENCE but do we fully understand and accept the links between emotions and biology?
Every single one of us gets activated.
Safe connection for whole health
A relationship to others is the single most important mechanism for the survival of a new born human baby. Without the messages shared within and between that bond, an infant would simply not survive.
Our understanding of, and access to information about the impact of adversity on our humanness (minds – bodies – spirits – communities) has exploded over the past 20 years, and we are exponentially clearer that going through difficult things shapes our physical, spiritual and mental health.
Applying knowledge of the nervous system to invite the body into regulation
In Polyvagal Theory, the “vagal brake” is the slowing down of a threat response by using cues of safety to hold us when we might otherwise slip into fight, flight or shut down.
Why moving your body can be one of the fastest ways to regulate your nervous system
If we view the physical manifestations of stress, fear and anxiety with an evolutionary lens (i.e that our nervous systems are preparing us to fight or flee in response to a perceived threat) then naturally the clever human system has an effective process of discharging these physiological changes (using up stress hormones etc).