Why I think we should talk less about EXERCISE and more about MOVEMENT
Category: Nervous system regulation Page 1 of 2
Getting regulated when you’re stressed or overwhelmed doesn’t have to be complicated. Essentially you’re looking for something which cues a sense of safety to your system, and although there are loads of great “exercises” out there to learn, actually, many of the things you’re already good at will also do a great job in these moments if applied consciously.
You have this wisdom built in you and you will naturally go looking for these opportunities for grounding.
The list is endless but here are some less obvious ideas I love:
🍀 nurture something you care about. Yes this could be tending to a plant, or it could be making a drink for a buddy, or tickling a pet.
⚡️try a weather themed playlist! Long thunderstorms while going to sleep feature in this house atm.
✨ embrace things you find beautiful. This is so underrated! Immerse yourself in a picture, draw, glitter gel your nails, read poetry.
🧹 organise a messy cupboard or colour-code a shelf of books. It reminds me of the feeling of reorganising your bedroom as a child.
🌤️ check in on your comfort basics (eat, drink, wee etc) then lie somewhere near a window and feel the light rays on your skin.
That heart thumping out of your chest, the clammy hands, jelly legs, shortness of breath, pale face, sickness in your gut, racing thoughts, swirling head, dry mouth, the intense urge to turn away, fight, avoid, run.
Every single one of these feelings is generated in the face of what your nervous system perceives as a threat….
…part of your bodies’ attempt to prepare you to get away, to survive what it thinks is about to happen.
Yet if you’re feeling it regularly, it’s likely that the response is out of proportion to the threat you’re actually facing? Maybe the threat here is a memory or thought… a hook back to a time when you were in danger. Perhaps you don’t even know the trigger.
Those intense symptoms of an activated nervous system can all too easily create a sense of frustration. Maybe you feel like your body is letting you down, working against you by reacting this way repeatedly when you don’t want it.
But your body is never the enemy.
It’s doing exactly what it THINKS you need in that moment. It’s stepping in to to mobilise you to fight or run for your survival.
Getting cross with it will only increase your activation and cause the intensity to last longer.
As an alternative, can you offer something like this as a silent message:
“Thank you, body
I know you’re standing up for me and working hard to protect me.
I’m so grateful for that.
But this time it’s ok.
I’m safe and I don’t need protecting.
We can be alongside each other.
We can breathe together,
we’re safe”
Please do come back and share how it feels 🙏🏻
It’s not you, it’s your nervous system
Ever feel like you’re caught up in old patterns of thinking, feeling and doing with no clue how to escape? Here is a helpful analogy we use often in therapy:
There’s literally NO HACK for repairing and restoring a tired mind-body. Not one single substitute for rest. And if you’re having a harder time than usual, your need for rest will increase in order to balance out the additional energy you use via an activated nervous system.
I vividly remember a conversation with my Mum at a really early age about something I didn’t understand in school, and she encouraged me to ask more questions “If you don’t get it, it’s likely that others won’t too”.
The three R’s
These three steps come from Bruce Perry, a neuroscientist working in the field of trauma, and are offered as a guide for how adults can best support vulnerable children to learn, think and reflect. But I see absolutely no reason why these steps should be saved for children only.
PEOPLE AND RELATIONSHIPS
If we view the physical manifestations of stress, fear and anxiety with an evolutionary lens (i.e that our nervous systems are preparing us to fight or flee in response to a perceived threat) then naturally the clever human system has an effective process of discharging these physiological changes (using up stress hormones etc). The whole point of the threat state is the system preparing you to fight for your rights or run for your life) so the body anticipates movement.